Skill mastery: physical intimacy use case

AI TLDR: This blog post says you can improve physical intimacy like any skill, by tracking your actions, feelings, and results with your partner. This data helps you discover what works best for both of you. But the key is communication! By talking openly about your feelings and what the data shows, you can create a system that leads to more fulfilling intimacy. It's like training a model to understand your needs, but the real power comes from clear communication with your partner.

Like any other skill, one can take a structured approach to physical intimacy improvement, using decomposition, and visualization.

There can be a wide set of outcomes, along with a wide set of protocols to reach the outcome:

• OG
• Relaxation
• Reassurance

I'll be using the use case of OG as a relatable outcome, however I think that it can be substituted for any other outcome if the process is similar: graph the action to OG rate using a single repeated action, and repeat at every N period at the same time to ensure consistent refractory periods, assign a value for the action's physical desensitization, and set the refectory period to a value that has attribute desensitization back to zero to try to control the state between each attempt. There most likely be unknown but measurable quantifiers like hormonal changes that can be measured with different tooling, ex. drop in testosterone, or decrease in sperm count, that should try be controlled too. Also quantify and control for force. Once you have consistent and repeated attempts producing accurate data, modify a single variable and measure again. Measure the number of actions to OG, then measure at different forces, at different sensitivities, at different refectory periods. This would benefit from multivariate analysis, and can get quite complex as you start to introduce multiple actions with different orderings for a single session.

Once you have collected all of the data, you can start mapping emotional states to a protocol that produce an outcome. Ex. High stress, however you want to track it (heart rate variability, blood pressure, cortisol level) perhaps could benefit from a prolonged time to OG (TTO), as muscle tension and breathing rate decrease, with some kind of post OG measurement to track input state, protocol, and output state so you can conclude with statements like "in high stress states, a TTO greater than 5 mins, produce an OG at N intensity and reduce stress levels by X percent for M hours afterwards, but TTO values less than 5 only ever produce Z intensity and Y stress reduction..."

After you have this data and mapping, one can request or the partner can initiate based on perceived (you can also measure how accurate the perception is) and measured state. The reason that this is important is because it is a type of communication, and being able to describe current state accurately along with being able to communicate your need, help each person be understood, and produces a predictable outcome. This data and practice can also be useful in analyzing situations where one partner may have less or more OG frequency between or during sessions, which can then help us frame if the OG experience is the goal or not for a given session.

I like to think that much like AI which can be trained on models, ex. letting you know dynamically when the best time to exercise is, or how much to eat, or when to sleep, we can also work with your partner to understand state and execute with predictability. You can't build on leaky abstractions and expect to see positive outcomes that scale, so a partner who is able to communicate and negotiate on expectations, along with providing confidence on delivering expected state, leads to reliability. Like training a dog, asking for a sit-stay in potentially dangerous situation like at a traffic light during a walk, can be the difference between life and death. Predictability actually allows for flexibility, allowing you to try different situations but knowing that action to situation will be a type of branched execution from a known state. Ex. surfing vs skateboarding vs snowboarding, all activities that have you sideways on a single board, requiring weight and balance manipulations to maintain stability. Or a simpler example, driving different vehicles, all which operate in a predictable manner, but can different attribute values like turning radius, time to full stop when breaking at X speed, acceleration, etc.

To conclude the post, much of life can be measured, and predicted through some kind of cyclic manner.